Things I Wish I’d Known with Rachael Welford
Inspiring positive change through conversation. Things I Wish I’d Known is a love letter to your younger self. Sharing wisdom about mental health & spirituality that empowers you to live a wildly happy and healthy life.
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Tuesday Nov 26, 2019
Tuesday Nov 26, 2019
People pleasing is a big issue for many people and I know that was a huge part of what led to my break down. Feeling like I could never say no to anyone and that I had to keep everyone happy was a real issue so I was over the moon when Ryan said he would love to discuss people pleasing for his episode.
Ryan Lanji is a Fashion & Art Curator, his curatorial direction on shows, PR events, collaborations and launches have led to global recognition in fashion and art alike, bringing together some of the biggest names across the industry, including Nick Knight, Gilbert & George, Vidal Sassoon and Mary Katrantzou. More recently curating 'Conservation Couture: The Animal Ball Collection' at the V&A Museum, it featured over forty fashion houses including Chloe, Burberry, Jean-Paul Gaultier, and Thierry Mugler. Alongside his work in fashion and art he is the Cultural Producer of Hungama, East London’s Queer Bollywood hip hop night. Hungama translates to 'chaos' and although Ryan’s music selection may be chaotic, he wanted to create the exact opposite… a safe space allowing queer South Asian people the chance for their culture and sexuality to seamlessly co-exist within a club night.
During this installment of #tiwik we seem to cover a lot! From coming out to parents who at the time didn’t understand, to dropping out of school to follow your dreams. We discuss chance encounters and how they can change the direction of your life and how pleasing our parents can lead to never fully actualising who we are at our core. The conversation drifts through community and music, to juggling multiple projects and skills where you’re expected to be everything to everyone, to working for free to create and build your dream. We chat cancelling your diary to create space, the fear of loss, rejection and hiding from people in the cinema just to get some peace! “Everytime you people please you lose a bit of yourself.” so hopefully through listening to this episode you can gain a bit of yourself back.
EPISODE INFO AND LINKS:
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/mslanji/
https://www.instagram.com/hungama_ldn/
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: https://www.samaritans.org
Mind - Charity for better mental health https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/depression/#.XclfYZL7TOQ
Switchboard - For over 45 years, Switchboard’s volunteers have been answering millions of UK calls, talking to LGBT+ people who need someone with empathy and insight. https://switchboard.lgbt/
Stonewall - https://www.stonewall.org.uk/
ABOUT THE SHOW
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs. A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself!
Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality. It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
Join the conversation by tagging @welfordwellbeing on:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing
using the hashtag #tiwik
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Nov 19, 2019
Tuesday Nov 19, 2019
The first time I met Francesca Oddie, I think we talked enthusiastically for about 2 hours about energy, the moon, the stars and planets and everything in between. I LOVE this woman's energy!
Fran is a passionate (she says obsessive) astrologer who really goes into the depths of astrology as a fascinating science. Her quest is to present the subject simply and to enable people to comprehend the reliable roots of astrology and this seems to have been the case since she saw the word Sagittarius at age 5.
During this episode we discuss how Francesca got into astrology, palmistry and numerology, segueing through dating scorpios, how astrology works and how we might be able to use it to guide our lives. We go into using asteroids in charts and whether you can read someone’s chart ‘wrong’ as well as the risk of projecting onto clients and how we use and build our intuition.
EPISODE INFO AND LINKS:Website: https://www.francescaoddie.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/francescaoddieastrology/Magic Momenti; Natal Charts & Astrology Art: https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/FrancescaOddieUSEFUL LINKS:If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: https://www.samaritans.org Mind - Charity for better mental health https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/depression/#.XclfYZL7TOQ
ABOUT THE SHOWTIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs. A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself!Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality.It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
Join the conversation by tagging @welfordwellbeing on:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeingFB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeingusing the hashtag #tiwikFor more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGgApple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Nov 12, 2019
Tuesday Nov 12, 2019
Darren Springer is a teacher, researcher and qualified organic horticulturist. By day he teaches organic gardening and food enterprise to “so called” hard to reach young people, in particular those who have been temporarily or permanently excluded from mainstream school. Darren is part of the Breaking Convention committee and works closely with Funzing, organising thought provoking talks and workshops around the subjects of Mushroom cultivation, psychedelic experiences and unearthing ancient buried knowledge from African-Caribbean history, culture and spirituality.
During this episode Darren and I discuss how we connected many years ago through a mutual love of art. We discuss seeds as currency, the power of nature as medicine, the potential application of psychedelics and entheogenic plants for mental health treatment and whether these psychoactive substances can help people to access and deal with their emotional baggage. Collectively Darrens work aims to inform and empower individuals from diverse backgrounds to cope with social challenges and contribute to community development as well as self-improvement in an innovative, creative, culturally-aware style and I think that really comes through on this episode.
EPISODE LINKS:
Website: https://www.darrenlebaron.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darren_le_baron/
Find his events and talks on Funzing: https://uk.funzing.com/users/158242
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: https://www.samaritans.org
Mind - Charity for better mental health https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/depression/#.XclfYZL7TOQ
The Psychedelic Society https://www.psychedelicsociety.org.uk/
Peer reviewed study: Psilocybin with psychological support for treatment-resistant depression: an open-label feasibility study https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpsy/article/PIIS2215-0366(16)30065-7/fulltext
ABOUT THE SHOW:
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs. A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself!
Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality. It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
JOIN THE CONVERSATION:
Join the conversation by tagging @welfordwellbeing on:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing
using the hashtag #tiwik
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
LISTEN AND FOLLOW:
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Nov 05, 2019
Tuesday Nov 05, 2019
Mandy Manners is a coach, speaker, writer and Mum of two. She has left her party lifestyle behind to embrace a sober life, calmer brain and pursue slow life satisfaction. She is passionate about breaking down the stigma of shame, trauma and mental illness through telling her own story honestly and authentically. You can see why I invited her on the podcast as our missions are completely aligned and she is such an open, kind hearted soul I wanted to help share her knowledge with you.
Mandy is also the co-founder of Love Sober with Kate Baily. Together they work with women to help them feel empowered by their choice to stop drinking. Mandy and Kate work with women to use their choice to go sober to pivot from surviving to thriving in all areas of their lives using a holistic approach to growth change and wellbeing.
In this episode we discuss how Mandy got into sober living and began to unpack and work through the shame and trauma she experienced after a devastating sexual attack in Mexico. We discuss speaking our shame and how to open up conversations with your family.
EPISODE LINKS:
Love Sober hosts the community Love Sober Life on Mighty Networks, offers 1-1 and online coaching programmes, workshops and talks and the Love Sober Podcast. Mandy and Kate are currently writing their first personal development book Love Yourself Sober: A Self Care Guide to Alcohol Free Living for Busy Mothers, to be released in September 2020 by Trigger Publishing, an independent publishers specialising in mental health and wellbeing titles.
Website www.lovesober.com
Community https://love-sober.mn.co/
Podcast https://lovesober.podbean.com/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lovesoberpodcast
Instagram https://instagram.com/mandy_love.sober
https://instagram.com/love.sober.podcast
https://instagram.com/love.sober.life
Twitter https://twitter.com/lovesoberpod
Shame Booth Project https://shamebooth.org/
She Recovers https://sherecovers.co/
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
EMDR Association https://emdrassociation.org.uk/
addaction - https://www.addaction.org.uk/
Alcoholics Anonymous https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: https://www.samaritans.org
NIA Ending Violence against women http://www.niaendingviolence.org.uk/
ABOUT THE SHOW
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs. A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself! Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality.
It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
Join the conversation by tagging @welfordwellbeing on:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing
using the hashtag #tiwik
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Oct 29, 2019
Tuesday Oct 29, 2019
Scott, also known as AKA Proud and Sober (Was The Boy Who Drank Too Much when this was recorded), is a sober activist and LGBTQI+ advocate and this week I’m talking to him about all things sobriety. At just over one year sober, Scott’s mission is to support others in their journey to sobriety and be of value to the LGBTQI+ community. We discuss everything from self medicating to when drinking gets too much, through to whether sobriety affects friendships and how to deal with your emotions when you get sober. Essentially we let you know what happens when you remove alcohol from your life for good and have to mourn the death of drinking you and embrace the sober you underneath.
EPISODE LINKS:
You can find Scott at the following website https://www.theboywhodranktoomuch.co.uk and follow him on instagram https://www.instagram.com/theboywhodranktoomuch/
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
addaction - https://www.addaction.org.uk/
Alcoholics Anonymous https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: https://www.samaritans.org/
Anxiety UK - https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk
ABOUT THE SHOW
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs.
A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself! Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality.
It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
Join the conversation by tagging @welfordwellbeing on:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing using the hashtag #tiwik
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Oct 22, 2019
Tuesday Oct 22, 2019
This week I am speaking with Sarah Ross, a burnout recovery expert who helps executives and entrepreneurs reset, recharge and thrive after burnout using the Burnout Freedom Formula. We discuss how an acting coach completely changed the whole direction of her life and how an experience in a children's cancer ward literally saved her life.
This episode gets deep!
We discuss the risks of becoming a corporate junkie which leads to exhaustion and feeling like you can’t cope. Feeling alone and not having anyone to turn too and eventually, setting an expiry date and creating a bucket list to tick off before you go. There’s some real nuggets of wisdom in here not least when she says “The thinking that gets you into a problem, can’t get you out of it.” and we share tools and our shared experience of burnout and our collective recovery.
EPISODE LINKS
If you want to get in touch with Sarah heres where to find her...
Website: http://www.yourreasontobreathe.com/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/yourreasontobreathe
LI: http://linkedin.com/in/thesarahross
IG: https://www.instagram.com/yourreasontobreathe.com/
Book: http://www.yourreasontobreathe.com/book/
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: https://www.samaritans.org/
Anxiety UK - https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/
UK Charity for prevention of young suicide Call UK 0800 068 4141. Website: https://papyrus-uk.org/
Mind the mental health charity - https://www.mind.org.uk/
CALM - The campaign against living miserably https://www.thecalmzone.net/ Call their helpline 5pm - midnight UK 0800 58 58 58 | London 0808 802 58 58 or visit their website for webchat.
ABOUT THE SHOW
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs. A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself! Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality. It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
JOIN THE CONVERSATION:
Like, comment, share, subscribe and follow:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing
using the hashtag #tiwik
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAsuYaAnSicednpzjpAkUkg
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Oct 15, 2019
Tuesday Oct 15, 2019
Samantha Houghton describes herself as a trauma thriver, book lover and coffee drinker. Maybe this is why we had so much to talk about? Samantha is an award winning author having published The Invisible Girl: A Secret Life, Permission To Be Myself and #1 bestseller Courage: Stories of Darkness to Light. She now works to help others with her writing gifts though inspirational book mentoring and intuitive ghostwriting.
In this episode we discuss how storytelling can be super healing and how writing a book allowed Samantha to change her labels and stories around mental health. We discuss her experience with being in psychiatric units whilst suffering the effects of OCD, depression and trauma which resulted in suicide attempts and how Samantha turned her life around through storytelling as a healing art form.
Samantha’s mission is to create a powerful impact on humanity through writing from her heart, using the power of words through books, film and speaking. Hearing the right and profound words have encouraged her massively in her life to free herself of complex trauma, heal and aim to reach the life of her dreams. She uses this to inspire and motivate others in their darkness to choose to rise, transform their lives by seeing how possible it is to go against all the odds, to succeed and to live their purpose.
EPISODE LINKS
Website: www.samanthahoughton.co.uk
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheInspiringWriter/
Sam’s new book is here: https://amzn.to/2nt66hC and her first book can be found here : https://amzn.to/2oliUrl
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair.
Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. Website: www.samaritans.org/
Anxiety UK - https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/
The national OCD charity, run by and for people with lived experience of OCD https://www.ocduk.org/
UK Charity for prevention of young suicide Call UK 0800 068 4141. Website:
https://papyrus-uk.org/
ABOUT THE SHOW
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self.
A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about.
A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs.
A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself!
Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality.
It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
JOIN THE CONVERSATION:
Like, comment, share, subscribe and follow:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing
using the hashtag #tiwik
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAsuYaAnSicednpzjpAkUkg
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information
Tuesday Oct 08, 2019
Tuesday Oct 08, 2019
This week I am talking to the inspiring Ruby Warrington. Ruby is a British writer, author and thought-leader currently located in Brooklyn, NY. Formerly Features Editor on the UK Sunday Times Style supplement, she is Founder of Now Age lifestyle platform The Numinous, and co-founder of “sober curious” events series Club SÖDA NYC. Her two books, Material Girl, Mystical World: The Now Age Guide to a High Vibe Life, and Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Laser Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol, are both published by HarperCollins and if that wasn’t enough, she also launched The Numinous Astro Deck, an astrology learning tool and oracle deck back in June 2019. Ruby is also the host of popular podcasts The Now Age and Sober Curious (the latter of which I cry on when she interviewed me - I had a podcast vulnerability hangover but apparently it was podcast gold :-))
In this episode we discuss:
What was the thinking behind the term “Sober Curious”?
Hangovers
The impact of drinking
Spirituality and Sobriety - what are the links?
Creativity and sobriety
The wilderness of sobriety…. And how to overcome it.
EPISODE LINKS:
You can follow Ruby on instagram https://www.instagram.com/rubywarrington and at The Numinous https://www.instagram.com/the_numinous
Buy her books here http://www.rubywarrington.com/i-am-an-author/
Listen to her podcasts here http://www.rubywarrington.com/podcasts/
My episode is here http://www.rubywarrington.com/podcasts/booze-burnout-and-mental-health-with-rachael-welford/
USEFUL LINKS:
If you need help with your mental health, please reach out to get help. There are amazing charities where you can find help:
addaction - https://www.addaction.org.uk/
Alcoholics Anonymous https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/
Samaritans - Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair. Call for free on 116 123 - 24 hours a day 365 days a year. www.samaritans.org/
Anxiety UK - https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/
ABOUT THE SHOW
TIWIK is a love letter to my younger self. A conversation about all the things we were told not to talk about. A sharing of knowledge, emotions and laughs. A potential handbook (or the audio equivalent) on how to master your mental health and fall back in love with yourself!
Nothing is off limits. We talk about everything from dating, suicide and mental health through to make up, skin care, magic and spirituality.
It's all the things I wish I'd known when I was younger so hopefully me and my guests will save you some heartache, provide some laughs, and inspire you to try something new helping you to grow from the inside out.
JOIN THE CONVERSATION:
Like, comment, share, subscribe and follow:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/welfordwellbeing
FB - https://www.facebook.com/welfordwellbeing
using the hashtag #tiwik
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAsuYaAnSicednpzjpAkUkg
For more information on Welford Wellbeing check out www.welfordwellbeing.com
You can listen and follow on:
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q3RxJ6fRED4oBoCpwPukV?si=TR-87oDDS9Os-Rern07bGg
Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/things-i-wish-id-known/id1479344250
or check out https://www.welfordwellbeing.com/tiwikpodcast for more information